Illustrated by: Vincent Flores
It’s not often we find someone who has never been in a relationship especially when they are in their early twenties, since most teenagers to young adults today have already engaged themselves into flings and romantic relationships.
Being single my entire life made me get used to a lot of things in my own way. I don’t mind waking up without any ‘good morning’ messages. I only have a bunch of group chats with my friends and group mates from school yet sometimes, I have personal messages from my friends and family. I have established myself that I am competent enough without any help from a ‘special someone’ but that doesn’t mean I’m closing my doors for it.
There are various reasons why people remain single for so long. It could be from the stories they’ve heard from their friends' relationships, or relationship issues circulating around social media. Perhaps they haven’t met someone capable enough for them, or they are simply happy enough with just themselves. It’s indeed quite scary to love in this world full of unfaithful people because the trauma it will leave is very serious, and that’s why there’s the fear of loving the wrong person. It’s okay to be selective because we all want what’s best for us. Though, once we fall in love, it will be hard to resist.
As the time went by, I feel like I’m not yet capable of being in the dating game because I lack experience. I might be very awkward and stutter in every conversation, though everyone went through it. However, I’m willing to adapt and learn in every step of the way.
There are plenty of benefits to being single in the long run. I’ve become more independent and mentally strong. Since I have the time for myself, I use that as an advantage to discover myself for a while and to figure out what I truly want and what I am passionate about. It’s good that I have my full attention to get my priorities straight, especially to my future career.
I’m also in the process of learning to love myself first before loving someone else, because self-love is the best kind of love. Self-love helps me establish to be the better version of myself before entering a relationship. I’ve learned to be patient on how life works, for there are things that we should not force to happen. If we force love to happen, it wouldn’t be pure.
Some say that there’s only one person in our lifetime that is meant for us, so we shouldn’t rush things. Love will always find a way, and that is why it’s okay to be single until we find someone that is meant for us. Maybe not today, nor tomorrow but it will come, our own time will come.
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