Successfully conquering the hurdles of making time for each other in spite of their hectic school loads, let our response be: sana all.
Nitz Marie Tan is not your typical 3rd-year Communication student. She is the President of Creative Communicators Society, and a feature writer of Komunikator, the official publication of Adamson University’s Communication Department. Balancing her academics and extracurriculars, she still managed to find herself a companion in a 3rd-year Computer Engineering student from STI Las Piñas named Vinz Dominic Javier.
Being a college student is already tough as it is, and having a significant other is supposed to make each day bearable. Nitz shared that she and her boyfriend, Vinz, thankfully, haven’t yet had a major conflict throughout their eight-month relationship.
“I mean, yes, we had arguments, and we fight sometimes, pero not a big deal naman ‘yung reason. Vinz is the type of boyfriend who doesn’t want to sleep at night without resolving the fight. Our priorities align too,” she said.
The rule is simple. Academic responsibilities would always come first over romantic dates for the couple. They believed that if they want to reach a certain goal together, they have to work together.
However, love doesn’t always give us butterflies in our stomachs; there are also gloomy days. Distraction is inevitable, just as difficulties are part of every relationship.
“Siguro ‘yung emotions. If we had an argument the day before or if I start missing him so much, then that’s the time that I experience difficulty concentrating. Kasi us, girls—I know anyone can relate; we tend to overthink if we’re overwhelmed by our emotions,” Nitz admitted.
“But since I have to make sure that my studies won’t be affected by this, I just have to get on with it and just communicate with my partner about the stuff that’s bothering me.”
Cliché as it may sound, but communication is always the key to compromise, especially when time is your relationship’s greatest enemy.
“I know laspag na yan but it really is. At any aspect pa yan, school, friends, family, jowa, communication is very important. Kasi we’re both really busy eh. Siya, because mas marami siyang units na tinetake, ako naman because I have extracurriculars and a full-time job,” She added.
As the saying goes, “kung gusto may paraan, kung ayaw may dahilan.” For Nitz, her duties and responsibilities for Creative Communicators Society (CREACOMMS) and Komunikator are never a hindrance from spending time together with her partner.
Communicating with one another is more than enough for they both count it as an effort. Of course, setting healthy boundaries is also as important to avoid unwanted misunderstandings.
When asked what advice she would give to young couples, she suggested finding someone who’s right for you or being the right person for your partner.
“Parang sa mga kaibigan lang ‘yan, why get involved with those na alam mong bad influence ‘di ba? Ganyan din sa relationship. You’ll find it hard to balance everything if your partner is not the right person,” Nitz said.
Everything will just fall into its place once you get yourself the right person. A partner who will bring out the best in you as you do to him. They will also become your source of strength and motivation knowing that there’s a great future ahead of you.
Nitz and Vinz are just a few living proofs that college couples are possible. Although, our education should always be the top priority and romance should just be a bonus. To make it happen, we must keep in mind that efforts don’t always have to be measured by huge acts of service but also by the little things we tend not to notice.
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